really??!!

mmmm interseting point of view i swear to ponder upon, well that is when my lil'one will be in bed, fed and happy and me rested and ok not rested that won't happen for another 10years but slightly rested and fed too  but i'm sure to have it here to be able to get back to it when i find the time...
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What advice would you give to a woman pregnant with her first child? I mean, I don't know. Don't drop the baby? Don't forget to change their diaper every few hours? Find a wooden spoon and bite on it until the baby turns 1?
I have two friends pregnant with their first babies, both of whom were recently kind enough to pretend that I might have some advice for new mothers. I couldn't come up with much useful information on the spot. "Uh, you don't need a stroller, but it's nice to have one?" "Definitely get a carseat." "Swaddle, I think, if it works. It's like wrapping a burrito. Eh, Google it." As for books? "Anything but Babywise" was my best tip.
My youngest isn't quite 2 yet, but already that baby stuff seems far away. My kids are almost people now! Some of the time they even voice their preferences with words , and I couldn't be more pleased with this development. But my "smell ya later, infancy" attitude isn't helpful for my pregnant friends, so I gave it some thought. Here's the best bits of advice for new mothers I could come up with:
Childbirth is just one really rough day with — odds are very good — a happy ending. Prepare for it, but don't let it define you. Epidurals suck, but there's no gold medal for pain endurance. If you get a C-section, you still get a baby. I bore one with an epidural and bore one without. It really wasn't all that different. Both hurt before, during and after. In one case, I also got a nice rest that I paid for with having to get a catheter. It wasn't really worth it for me, but it might be for someone else.
You don't need a title for how you parent. Have one if you want one, but it isn't essential. You can pick and choose from different philosophies. I might be a minimalist parent or an unparent. I'm not sure. It doesn't matter. I just do shit and shit happens. I try not to be a dick to my kids, but it's okay if sometimes they're inconvenienced by my needing to be a human in addition to being a mother.
Co-exist with your children. They don't revolve around you and you try to get to a place where you don't revolve around them, but forgive yourself for the fact that itty bitty kids require an intense buy-in and you might not have much of a personality for the first year or two of their lives.
You might lose your mind. That's okay. Get help.
If you have a partner, use him or her. Co-parent! Leave your partner home alone with the baby while you go to the grocery store. Or even better, send them to the grocery store together while you stay home alone. Don't fix it when your partner dresses the baby in two types of stripes. Don't deride your partner's babyminding faculties. Don't believe that only you have the magic to make your baby happy. Don't hover over your partner when he or she's with the baby and treat him/her like an employee who has to be trained. Don't refer to what your partner does as "babysitting."
Both sleep training and not sleep training are messes. Figure out what you can tolerate and then act accordingly.
If you don't control your tendency to be controlling you will imprison yourself. Go ahead and try to be perfect if you want, but don't blame the institution of motherhood or your baby when you go two years without finishing a sentence, sleeping through the night or having sex.
Join a mom's group, but stay with it only if it's nurturing to you. If you feel judged or you feel judgy of the other moms, quit. Find a new group. Or don't. It's not high school. You don't need a clique.
This homemade baby food nonsense ends with you. Grab a banana, smoosh it with a fork, then feed it to your baby. You don't have to puree peas. When they want to eat peas, they will just eat them with that cute little pincer grasp they've been working on. Carrots too hard? Steam them. You do not need a two-week course, several reference manuals and specialized appliances. It is so much simpler to feed your kid fresh fruits and vegetables than anyone lets on. It's not a thing. It's just food. Also, they sell this stuff in jars and pouches and it's not too bad.
All the seemingly divisive decisions — pain meds in labor/newborn sleep arrangements/feeding — are often phrased as moral imperatives from both sides. Screw that. Take care of your kid. Do what works.
You can't win at parenting or homemaking. If you think you're winning then everyone else thinks you're a dick.
My philosophy can be summed up with "Really?!" It's what you say when strangers tell you that your baby is freezing in 85 degree weather and how to respond to the moms in your play group who tell you either "Ferberizing is the only way to go" or "Sleep training causes brain damage." And "really?!" is the only acceptable response to a partner who claims "I don't know how to change diapers as well as you."
When in doubt, ask yourself what a pioneer lady on a wagon train would think is important. Suddenly, organizing baby socks will fall off your to-do list and you'll feel a lot better about your day. ("Sock organizing? Really?!" you'll say to yourself.) And "really?!" will come in handy as your baby gets older. Kids are beautiful and majestic little human unicorns who are full of total bullshit and they need to be called out on that.
That's all the wisdom I've gathered three-and-a-half years into this gig. What would you add to it?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jj-keith/new-moms_b_1850227.html

Heat wave!!!

Bon ben on est en pleine chaleur
Maxime va bien et il semble ne pas trop être incommodé de cette vague de chaleur intense,
mon pote irlandais John lui par contre lui semble avoir un peu souffert....
Nous avons été voir "mon premier match de rugby" en france, bègles à perdu c'était très sympo ma foi.
Le jardin se porte à merveille, enfin aujourd'hui il tire la gueule vu que trop tard hier pour l'arroser,
cette semaine chargée avant de partir en vacances pour une semaine programme barcelone, cahors et le pas de la case whooopppdeeeddoooo
allez bon courage à celles et ceux qui sont en vacances ou au boulot puisque la chaleur est dure dure dure
mais pourvu que ca dure dure dure!

salut

Alors toujours très prise par Maxime, disons que je viens de voir le post qui promettait les 9 mois etc..et bien cela fait 2 mois déjà et je n'ai toujours pas commencé!
Tout mon temps se focalise sur maxime et notre potager et le fait que ma tension soit toujours faible fait que j'ai très peu de temps pour moi, qui ne soit pas déjà utilisé!
Mais cela viendra, j'ai mis le plus utile en ligne avec les exercices périnéaux, viendront les exercices de mon Kiné, essentiel aussi pour une remise en forme en douceur puisque pour celles qui allaitent comme moi, nous ne pouvons pas nous remettre au sport tant que nous allaitons (pour une raison évidente de qualité de notre lait, éviter le pipi de vache comme disait ma sage femme)!
allez je retourne ) mes "areuhs"
biz

SALUT !!!!

Ca y est après 3 mois de rééducation périnéale et les 7 exercices magiques j'ai retrouvé un tonus et une musculation vaginale et périnéale "parfaite", ma sage femme m'a complimentée sur ce tonus retrouvé en peu de temps donc ça marche, j'ai été assidue et ça a payé. Je continuerai à faire mes exercices mais maintenant je passerai à d'autres fréquences. Allez sur la page pour les essayer, quelque soit votre âge, puisque la descente d'organe peut apparaitre à partir de 50ans si vous ne faites pas votre gym!

Pour ce qui est de la grossesse je vais bientôt commencer le récit de la mienne!

Ensuite viendra ce qui arrive ensuite....

allez bonne journée

SALUT!

Toujours très prise par Maxime,
mais j'ai réussi à mettre en ligne les trois exercices de rééducation périnéale,
cette fois on est en temps réel, puisque ma troisième session était aujourd'hui,
la quatrième sera jeudi, croisons les doigts que j'ai le temps de mettre à jour la page,
le reste pour ce qui est de ma grossesse en soi, les 9 mois puis les choses depuis
deux mois et demi déjà viendront, promis juré, mais à un rythme bien plus lent que présumé.
En tous cas bonne lecture et n'hésitez pas à me laisser des conseils, ou astuces ou quoi ou qu'est-ce..
Biz'

Salut!

Je me suis dit alors que mon fils dormait,
Tiens c'est le moment d'en profiter pour raconter tout ce que j'ai vécu pendant ma grossesse, pour m'en rappeler en détails sans l'embellir avec le temps...
Et oui le temps efface les douleurs et petits tracas pour ne laisser que de jolies choses,
certes c'est bien mais franchement j'aurais préféré qu'on m'eût dit la vérité sur les peines et bobos des premiers moments, c'eût été moins choquant :)
Alors voilà la vérité telle qu'elle est, pas de panique pour autant si vous êtes enceinte,
chaque grossesse est différente, unique et personnelle donc vous ne vivrez pas la même,
mais au moins vous aurez un aperçu franc et honnête, bien que subjectif, d'une grossesse
et puis des petits trucs et astuces que j'ai glané au cours de cette merveilleuse expérience,
car malgré tout, douleurs et mauvaises surprises, c'est une merveilleuse expérience,

Alors bonne lecture et n'hésitez pas à me contacter pour des contacts puisque par discrétion je ne donnerai pas ici les noms des experts ou amis qui m'ont aidé cà et là!